You have your reasons for having doubts. That’s understandable. We’ll break down 5 methods that will help you find out the truth, and get rid of what’s been bothering you: doubt.
Tinder is often used as an easy way to practice infidelity. And that’s been proven to us by the shown statistics of Tinder users; a surprising percentage of Tinder users are either in a relationship or married. Hence your doubts and worries are heard and understood.
5 methods on how to find out if your girlfriend/wife is on Tinder:
1. Talk to her about it
To find out if your girlfriend or spouse (wife) is on Tinder, try out the healthy ways first.
If you’re looking for honesty, and healthy ways to sort this out, then talking to her about your doubts, talking to her about what’s troubling you is the number one way to go.
Let her know that her behavior or anything that she’s doing to trigger this ‘trouble’ within you, is making you feel insecure and doubting your trust in her.
After talking to her, think it through and if you feel like she wasn’t genuine with you, and she didn’t give you an honest answer, then you can move on with other methods to find out.
2. Ask a friend to keep their eyes open while swiping
Tinder has over 66 million users, I’m pretty sure you must have at least one straight friend currently using Tinder. Ask him to look out and let you know if he sees her while swiping.
As long as your friends are willing to help, this is a pretty decent way to find anyone on Tinder.
3. Use third-party apps/sites to find her
You have to pay for their services, but you don’t need to open a Tinder account or ask friends to look for your girlfriend/wife on Tinder. Here are a few of those apps/sites that might come in handy:
What you have to do is go to their site; type your girlfriend’s/wife’s name only, her age, and the precise location.
The price for such services starts from 5.00$ which could be a little too much for some of you. But if you feel like she’d open an account on her name and her real age, then they will find it!
4. Create an account and set your preferences
I don’t recommend this, and I say it every time, but if you feel like you’re helpless at this point, you can go for it.
Keep in mind that does more harm than it does good, so think it through before you decide to jump on this.
- Download Tinder, or go to Tinder.com and create an account;
- Set your preferences according to her age, and distance (e.g. if she’s 25 set your age range 25-28; then set your distance to 1-5 miles);
- Start swiping until you find her.
In case you found it and swiped left unintentionally? You can still rewind it and find her again.
|Keep in mind: She could be using the Tinder Passport Feature to swipe and appear as if she’s in a different location (anywhere in the world).|
It won’t cost you money, but it’ll cost you time, effort, energy, and nerves. A lot of nerves. Again, think it through before you decide to take this step!
5. See if she has the app installed on any of her devices
This is yet another unhealthy way to solve this, but if you can’t sleep at peace about it, then check her devices and see if she’s got the app installed, or if she’s browsed tinder.com on her history.
If she’s been using Tinder, she either has it installed on her phone, or using tinder.com on her browser.
You might end up being the guilty one if you don’t find anything, and if she’s clean and catches you betraying her trust like this, it can make room for other problems in the relationship.
You still have to find out if she is on other dating apps like Bumble, Facebook Dating, Match, Hinge, OkCupid etc…
Before you proceed, there are things you need to be aware of
I’ll share with you a few things you need to consider while choosing the methods I mentioned and talked about above:
Tinder allows you to connect the app with your contact list, so you can block any of your contacts which you don’t want to see on Tinder.
If you think she’d use this feature, and you want to create a profile so that you can start swiping, then you’re gonna need a fake phone number for this to work out.
– You can use Tinder with incognito mode on the browser without installing the app.
If this would be the case then, if you’d check her devices for the app, or her history for the site, you might not find anything since nothing stays on the history if you use it through incognito.
– It’s possible to get away with a fake profile on Tinder.
If you look for her with her name and her pictures on Tinder, keep in mind that she could be having a fake profile with a fake name and profile pictures.
– You can tell she’s lying if you ask her.
You know her well, she’s your girlfriend/wife. Her tone of voice, eye contact, body language, will give it away. Talk to her.
Exactly why is she on Tinder?
If you found your girlfriend or wife on Tinder, after the shock and pain, the questions about the whole situation start to kick in. Why is she on Tinder?!
There could be various reasons why she’s on Tinder, she’s not there to make friends, she knows Tinder is a dating app. Let’s see:
She’s seeking external validation. There’s a large number of Tinder users that use the app for only this reason: to get validation, gratification, to feel important and interesting.
She’s looking at what else could be out there, as in “Am I missing something?”. In other words, she’s curious to see what other men are out ‘in the market’. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean she’s out and dating them.
She’s looking for another man. The app is designed for people to meet with one another and socialize, but most importantly, date. If she’s on the app, chances are big that she’s using the app for this exact purpose: to find someone else.
She’s trying to financially profit from the app. Even though Tinder is against such behavior, a lot of people profit by putting links on their bios and promoting their stuff on their Tinder profiles; especially women.
She’s using it as a way of ‘taking control’. You went through a fight, or she found out you weren’t as faithful as she thought, or for any other reason that caused you both to agitate, she’s now using this as a way of protecting her pride and vulnerability.
It’s her way of taking control, or her way of saying: “If you did/said that, then get ready to take this!”
She might regret it later since this is usually a product of mercurial compulsivity; a temporary agitation, a slightly inappropriate behavior to make her feel insecure, is enough to start the ‘protect pride/vulnerability’ engine.
You found her on Tinder. Now what?
Again finding your partner – whether she’s your spouse or your girlfriend – on a dating app can come as a shock, which then is followed by countless questions, anger, and pain. Here’s what you can do about it:
First, see if your wife/girlfriend has been recently active on Tinder. A few ways to tell that someone has been active on Tinder is to look for the green dot along with “recently active” on their profile. Besides the green dot with “recently active”, see if she posted a recent picture of her. If she hasn’t been using the app within 10 days, she might not appear on your swipe stack at all.
Sort it out with yourself: How do you feel, and what do you feel like doing? Feeling angry, in a bad mood, in pain, and confused is normal in such situations.
Take your time to calm down, since when you’re experiencing strong emotions, you’re overwhelmed and your quality of thinking isn’t at its best.
Take a breath, have a moment. Think about it, and decide on it once you’re calm. Once you do that it’s time to:
Have a word with her; let her know of your decision. If you’re looking for closure, you can ask her why she did it, have proof that you saw her profile, let her know that it made you feel bad, and finally let her know of your decision.
Take what’s reasonable for you. If you think that giving it another chance is a reasonable decision and that you can trust her again, then go for it. It’s one more chance.
On the other hand, if you feel like leaving it at that is what’ll best be for your benefit, then go for it.