To start the conversation on Bumble in the best way, you need to combine kindness with wit and humor.
Bumble doesn’t work the same as Tinder.
When you match with a girl on Bumble, you are not allowed to make the first move.
Hence, you need some sort of an opening line to carry the conversation.
This means that you get to set the tone of the conversation and attract her toward you.
You might not always get the responses that you want. Yet, make sure to put yourself out there and be honest.
Every little detail in their bio or something between the lines can be a bridge of connection.
Use it wisely because just one good opening line can carry the rest of the conversation.
Here are 9 tips on how to start a conversation on bumble:
1. Ask an honest question
Online dating is all about getting to know each other and you cannot do it if you don’t ask questions.
So, try to make intense questions and funny ones.
A combination of these questions will give you a better vision of who she is and if she likes you
What you ask and how you do it depends on how she interacts with you first.
- Hey (her name), what made you swipe right?
- Well, hello to you too.
- Hey, I am fine. What’s your favorite activity right now?
- I am quite fine but not as fine as you’re looking in those cool glasses. Where did you get them?
Be curious because then you will show that you’re interested and you will get to know them more and vice versa.
2. Be upfront and why you swept right
You can be straightforward and make a simple conversation at the same time.
You might ask her what triggered her to swipe right.
You need to ask if it was your photos or your bio because that says a lot about her.
If she is attracted to your personality then she will be attracted to your bio.
In the bio, you might put your interests and what you like and don’t like to do.
Whereas, through pictures, you might show your favorite activities but they can’t give much information as a bio.
“Ok, tell me, here we go, should I thank my face or my personality for being appealing to you?”
“Well, I guess we both have good taste. Wanna know why?”
“I am a leftie but I will swipe right for you the whole day” Would you do the same 😝?”
3. Show that you pay attention to details
Be observant of their page and what they have written on their bio.
It can take you just a short time to kind of go through her profile and see what you can use to start a conversation.
In this case, you will have more information on what to ask or say.
If you just look at her photos then you might ask her about a certain photo.
You might ask her about how she spent the day at a certain place, if would she go again and why did she go there.
There are plenty of options that you might use.
Just make sure that you don’t cross boundaries and ask something that might bother her.
It might not be appropriate if you asked her who was there or who took the picture.
These questions might be asked if you were on a date and you knew one another a little bit better.
4. Just make random assumptions about her
Make assumptions, you might not be always right but you can make mild assumptions.
Guess what she does for fun or what is her favorite food or music.
Most girls are into astrology and you might ask her about it and tease her a little bit.
“I guess you are a Capricorn because you seem to like outdoor activities.”
“Pina colada must be your and my favorite drink then.”
Keeping a conversation going on Tinder is the same as keeping it going on Bumble.
You just need to avoid making close-ended questions and be bold.
In general, a woman likes men who dare and are bold to make questions so she can express herself.
5. Use the false and true technique
Multiple sources will suggest you try to use the method of filling blanks and letting them guess about you.
Hence, what might trigger them more is the false and true technique.
You state some facts about yourself and ask them if that is true or false.
In this case, you can say something like:
1. “Let’s do a quick game, true or false.
I can drink 10 coffees a day.”
2. “Once I met Lindsay Lohan and she thought I looked like Ed Sheeran.”
You can use any fact about yourself and if that’s funny enough share it as it is.
If you want to give them a false fact just to make them laugh and reply further, then be creative.
6. Be an outstanding lad
Do something or say something that others don’t.
First make an outstanding profile, your bio, and pictures.
Take some time to add some cool and high qualitative pictures.
That will draw attention and you will have something different and special to talk to.
If you have good pictures, everyone will ask you whether your pictures are professional or not.
You might use this as a fact to continue the conversation.
Moreover, you have the chance to give them any review or advice on their pictures too.
In this case, you use your profile as a hook to start a conversation on Bumble.
7. Set the emotional and sexual connection
This picture is not the best example of how you connect emotionally and sexually with your Bumble match.
You can try to be compassionate and then use it to tell her more about yourself.
The mistake that this user did during this conversation was the way, he didn’t know how to react.
If you want to be compassionate then be vulnerable and tell her exactly how you feel.
What he could say in this case was something light and like:
“I am sorry to hear that, are you planning to get another dog soon?”
Despite this, you can share with them any similar experiences you have.
8. Be playful and mysterious
The best way to start a conversation on Bumble is to tease them and let them guess about you.
You can start with a compliment or have an opinion about her and then add some facts about yourself.
“I love your Venice pictures. Guess, do I look more like Venice or Paris guy?”
“No way you are a professional skydiver? Come on guess what I do professionally.”
You can add different facts about yourself and tease them to keep the conversation going.
Otherwise, if you just add random words and tell them your profession, the conversation might be dull.
9. Try to compliment her
In general, women like compliments when they are done in a flirtatious way.
Don’t compliment her and make her feel uncomfortable.
You can have a light conversation and let her know that you notice these details about her.
It doesn’t mean that compliments should always be about their physical appearance.
It can be anything. If she has a photo of climbing a mountain or anything, you might compliment her on her braveness.
“Wow, I really admire your braveness to climb mount Everest. Any tips for me to do it?”
“Those eyes or yours can light up my world. I bet they are not lenses…”
Don’t hesitate to give compliments because that will be a great conversation opener.
These examples have little details that ask her to state something, it is not just a mere compliment.
If she is interested, she will reply and keep the conversation going.
10 lines on how to start a conversation on Bumble!
It means that you need to keep the ball rolling. You just need to keep it light and keep it playful.
Just a mere Hey might not get you anywhere.
Unless the other person finds your profile quite astonishing and wants to keep the conversation going.
Here are 10 lines that will give your profile a boost:
1. Not gonna lie, that smile of yours brightened up my day.
2. Is that an Artic Monkeys CD on your third pic? I love them…
3. If you would disappear for one day, where would you go?
4. I see that you like traveling, have you found yet the way to my heart?
5. Since we’re here. Kiss, marry, kill. Me, Robert Pattinson, Trevor Noah.
6. Wow, you can impress everyone with that bio but what impresses you in life?
7. You look like had the best time in Japan, or am I guessing wrong?
8. If I would die today, what would you say to me?
9. To be honest, that first line on your bio shattered my heart. Gawdddd why are you so perfect?
10. I need your opinion. Pizza or sushi tonight?
You can start the conversation on Bumble using these lines and being creative on your own.
You can copy and paste them but you might add or remove any part of it, to adjust to your situation.
Uniqueness and being funny are two elements that will make you outstanding!
What should you not say on Bumble?
It’s not that easy to break the ice and continue conversations on dating apps.
Because of it you and everyone else can easily make some inevitable mistakes.
Yet, here are some tips on how to avoid them and get a date with your match!
1. Avoid being overly romantic.
Yes, Bumble is a dating app and the aim is certain but overdoing it might make you seem creepy or cringe.
To get her attention and keep a conversation going you should be flirty and straightforward.
Hence, being too romantic and acting immediately like she is your girlfriend will give her the ick.
This is pretty normal because she doesn’t know you personally and it might sound sometimes disturbing.
To avoid it, you need to build emotional and sexual connections simultaneously.
Make flirty comments about her but at the same time be vulnerable.
Give her the chance to understand that lowkey you care about her and want to get to know her.
“Wow, at that second pic you look hot while presenting. I admire your smart and sexy.”
2. Do not be rude when carrying on the conversation.
If you find something that you don’t like about them along the way, don’t use any bad words.
This will give a bad taste to her. Even if she reacts badly about your priorities or preferences, don’t overreact.
Instead, you might say that everyone has different preferences and different personalities.
Or you might not choose to answer and move on to another match.
3. Avoid being too persistent or clingy.
Dating apps are designed to have a lighthearted and simple conversation.
It’s not wrong to be enthusiastic as soon as you match with someone that you find attractive and interesting.
Hence, keep in mind that she never met you in real life and everyone not only her would like to take it slowly.
If you notice that she is pulling away and answering with short replies then just stop texting.
Being persistent, double texting, and begging for attention won’t work.
4. Don’t overreact.
If your match finds the conversation not interesting then they will stop texting.
And that’s fine. You should not overreact and offend them if they don’t find you interesting.
In the end, you might match with someone but in the meantime that might not work.
There might be a lack of connection or something that you said might bother her.
No matter what, you should embrace it and move on.
There are a lot of other matches that are waiting to get to know you.
She started the conversation with “Hi”, what should I do?
Starting a conversation just with Hey or Hi is one of the common mistakes that most people do.
When she sends this message, you might think that she isn’t interested in you and put in little effort.
Perhaps this might be the reason for some women who want just attention.
Yet, a woman might use just that phrase because she doesn’t know what to say.
- She might not know how to use dating apps yet.
- She might be shy and not know how to interact even online.
- She might not be good at flirting.
You might take into consideration all these elements if you encounter just a hi from her.
It might be hard to start a conversation on bumble when you get just a simple hello.
Yet, that is not impossible. Check her profile and find what you can ask her from it and show what you’re interested in.
If her profile has online her Snapchat or Instagram link then you just might ask also a few simple questions.
- Hey, how are you?
- Hey, what’s good?
- Hello, hello, there.. What got you here lol?
You can use anything that you want to know about them and be flirty to some extent.
If you get a dry reply after these questions and she doesn’t follow up with a question, she might not be interested.
The finish line: How to chat on Bumble?
You can start a conversation on Bumble by starting small, asking questions, and being yourself.
Be open and ask questions but still create a space for her to ask questions too.
To get the conversation going you need to be vulnerable to some extent and make them feel safe.
With a few words, you need to set the goal of what you want to attract.
You can do it by being yourself, being funny, and asking specific questions.
You can do it. You need a little bit of luck, advice, and confidence.
Good luck,
Liam Barnett
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