A man’s worst nightmare is not to lose his money; it is to lose it to a woman pretending to want a serious relationship with him.
In this article, I will give the story of my friend, Imanu who got catfished in the worst way possible.
Tinder has both male and female users but most users are male according to Tinder Statistics.
Therefore, most female users try to take advantage of the male users through the catfish method.
The men have a lot of competition for the few women on Tinder and women realize that.
This was the demise of my friend Imanu.
He needed a woman and Tinder looked so promising to him. Unfortunately, he just lost his Benjamins.
I do not want you to fall into similar predicament.
Therefore, in this article, you shall get to understand:
- What a catfish is on Tinder.
- Why it is called a catfish.
- Whether Tinder has catfish profiles.
- The 7 Signs of a catfish.
- How Tinder users catfish.
- What to do if catfished.
- How to avoid being a victim of catfish.
Buckle up, this is going to be a crazy ride.
This should be as brief as 8 minutes of your time.
A Catfish on Tinder
A catfish is a scenario whereby one of the parties in the relationship ends up losing money to the schemes of the other party.
It is not just money but also property. Mostly though, it is money. It is a terrible prank that uses fake profiles to cheat guys into seemingly meaningful relationships that lead nowhere.
It is not always easy to spot a catfish but, after reading this article, that will quickly change.
Why it is called a Catfish
This phenomenon of begging for money, asking for financial favours, having to prove that you love someone by giving them money is called a catfish.
This is because, a liar presents himself or herself as needy or doing something important that requires your attention.
When my friend Imanu got catfished, the woman was seemingly setting up a business in Omsk and needed some amount.
Yes, she was European, from Ukraine but she wasn’t really setting up any business.
It is called a catfish when a prank is set out to swindle a party of cash. More women than men catfish, especially on Tinder.
Tinder has many Catfish Profiles
There are so many fake profiles on Tinder trying to solicit for money through various means.
An obvious Tinder catfish profile of Natile who is a man and only 18?
These means are:
There are those profiles that promise to offer you massages only if you pay for them.
There are those ones that offer to sell you sexy videos and voice recordings.
On Tinder, there are those slay queens, who are extremely hot and all they want is a paid booty call.
Sometimes when you make a match with a user, they want you to send them lunch money first before you meet face-to-face.
All the above are examples of the kinds of catfish profiles that exist on Tinder.
For my friend Imanu, his European girlfriend was posing as a tourist in Nairobi looking for investment opportunities.
That she had been setting up business in Omsk and wanted to partner with Kenyan investors, like my well-off buddy Imanu.
Ways to Know if It is a Catfish on Tinder
Catfish behavior is fortunately in some instances easy to spot.
In this article, you shall meet up with seven signs.
However, your intuition should help a lot in guiding you while on Tinder.
The signs are so obvious such as the ones that I will mention here:
1. There are hardly any photos of the real person
The major reason why these catfishers are reluctant to send you any other photos is because they are not the real person.
Whatever photos that you saw on their profiles, usually one or two is all that they have.
When you ask for their photos they snob you or quickly change the subject of discussion.
Others tend to get pissed off at you. These are most probably escorts.
If you look closely you may notice inconsistencies in their photos.
If you are in luck, the usernames that they have could be getting used on other social media platforms.
You can try the Tinder Search to identify the real owners of the profiles.
2. Celebrity or models’ photos are in use a lot
There have been times when real-life celebrities have been caught using online dating sites.
Sharon Stone was temporarily banned from Bumble. Catfishers take advantage of celebrity photos.
A good example is Sharon Stone on Bumble, where her account was banned by Bumble.
Such incidences have given catfishers an opportunity to use fake celebrity accounts to catfish.
They have also played around with models’ photos and created fake snaps (from Snapchat cloning app) to fool Tinder users.
Here is the part where I have to remind you that, “If it is too good to be true, it most probably is”.
Why would Rihanna be looking for love on Tinder when she can get almost any man that she wants?
You must first send them some lunch money before they meet you in person
I do not know why but Imanu did this with his European girlfriend.
When they first met on Tinder, she was already in Nairobi City, Kenya but she did not want to meet him before he sent her something for lunch.
She was extremely attractive and Imanu, typical of most men complied.
It seemed so harmless to Imanu that even when they eventually met, he never allowed them to part without him paying for her fare back home.
This trend continued for some time in their building relationship.
Imanu is pretty well off therefore, a few Benjamins did not seem like much to him.
No wonder catfishers are ecstatic when they find a rich person.
He or she may not care that they are being swindled until it is either late or something seems off.
4. Their messages send you to some external links or email addresses
Would you believe it, Imanu ended up being on three different sites that his European girlfriend was a part of, allegedly.
Porn site redirection happens a lot from catfishers.
They were a mixture of porn sites and online betting sites.
Porn site redirection happens a lot from catfishers.
They were a mixture of porn sites and online betting sites.
The explanation that she gave was that she was a shareholder on these sites and would have appreciated it if Imanu supported her.
Being as sizzling hot as she was, Imanu agreed.
Eventually he would discover that they were attempts to get his credit card information.
They needed to access his pin and CSV number so as to swindle him.
That is exactly why catfishers on Tinder send you to external links.
They want you to sign up for some service using your credit card so as to steal from you.
You can protect yourself from using real details on Tinder and any other redirected site.
Just try out the Tinder Without a Phone Number.
If that does not suit your needs, try out Tinder Plus For Free.
You do not have to use your real details while on Tinder.
5. You cannot meet them in person as they give excuses all the time
At least Imanu met his former European catfish.
However, most of these fake profiles do not want to meet you face to face.
There are three major for reasons for this:
- They are not who you saw in the photos.
- They have very low self-esteem.
- They do not want a relationship.
They are the people who ghost you once they get what they want from you.
A meaningful relationship to them is a waste of time.
They do not think that they are capable of having a meaningful relationship.
For most men, these kinds of women want you to send them bus fare to come and see you.
Also, they are full of excuses as to why you cannot meet.
They obviously ask you for cash
Before Imanu and his European girlfriend ever met, she asked him for cash.
Gold digging is a big red flag of a catfisher.
When they met in person, she asked him for even more cash.
It was an interesting case. A local man who handed money a lot to an international person.
We were all shocked!
It all seemed so innocent to him as she was after all, a very sophisticated business woman.
Imanu never wanted to see beyond that pretty face and so he got catfished and easily.
The common behavior of most catfishers is asking for cash!
They do it a lot.
They do it in three major ways:
- They play on your sympathy talking of family problems.
- They promise you good sex.
- They play on your naivety and generosity.
You should never be too kind with anyone.
Being kind is good but protect yourself from these catfishers.
They may justify ghosting you by cushioning to not feel guilty.
7. They do not want to send you pictures
This is because they are most probably not real people. Their photos would lack consistency and you would notice that.
A Tinder profile without a picture.
There is another major reason why they do not want to send you pictures. That is, they want to keep their contacts secret.
Others plan to ghost you as soon as they get your money.
However, you can know why your Tinder Match Disappeared.
Not sending you pictures is also a way to hide their crime.
They know that catfishing is stealing.
Stealing is a crime.
They do this to make sure that you would not be able to report to the police anything at all.
This is why it usually is hard to make a case against catfishers.
Admittedly and quite weirdly, Imanu’s European woman seemed a bit different to him.
She did not have blonde but red hair.
She was not as short but a bit taller than him.
How Tinder Users Catfish
There are some remarkable ways through which Tinder users catfish other users.
Fake snaps enable users to clone real stories as if they were their own.
- They use the fake snap feature on Snapchat.
Fake stories app for cloning Snapchat is a sure way to create a fake Snapchat using someone else’s true Snapchat.
With that being said, someone could even clone the story of a model or a celebrity.
- They automate Tinder bots
These ones send users generated replies as if machines were talking to them.
They have a tendency of sending users to external sites such as porn sites.
On these sites, users have to sign up for services using their credit cards.
Hackers then can steal their money.
- They give you a lot of attention until it is weird
They may look or seem too good for you.
They keep on praising your looks and stuff on your photos.
Eventually, they ask you to send them cash first before you meet up.
What to Do if Catfished An Expert’s Advice
What you should do if at all you get catfished.
If ever you have been a victim of a catfish and just realized it, do not panic. Just do these:
- Make sure to save the money that you have left. You may still be able to stand well on your feet.
- If she or he made you broke, just cut ties from them and gradually pick yourself back up.
- Do not be naïve. We all have problems. You too have problems so; do not sympathize so much with their situations.
- Learn a lesson from your experience and never repeat the mistakes.
- Warn others around you so that you protect them from your experience.
It is not always easy to spot a catfish.
Others hide so well and you realize much later on.
Do not be too hard on yourself. Get smarter every day and you will be just fine.
We learn from experience.
How to Avoid Being a Victim of Catfish
You are in luck.
Avoid being a victim of catfish.
I wish to protect you from being catfished.
So here is how to avoid being catfished:
- Take note of all the 7 points mentioned here.
- Do not expect too much from users on Tinder or any other site.
- Trust your guts when you get suspicious.
- Do image searches and name searches on other social media like Facebook and Twitter.
- Insist on meeting face-to-face to know the real person. Meet somewhere in public at first.
The last one, which I put separately, is to know what a Good Tinder Bio looks like.
Remember to always be careful when dating online as many fake profiles exist.
Be wary of people who ask for favors before they meet you in person.
Spotting a fake Tinder profile is not always easy.
However, there are the tell-tale signs such as the many we have looked at.
Let me remind you one, “They have no profile photos”.
Knowing that you are being catfished is very important before it is too late.
It helps you and you are able to also help others.
It exposes them for who they are and that way, you can make Tinder a better online dating site.
Always be yourself and do not expect too much.
Live within your means and work hard to be successful.
By the way, my friend Imanu is no longer with the European catfish.
As always, I wish you all the best while you use Tinder.